The following is my “comment” to a blog posting by Michael Hyatt, a Christian business consultant, who wrote: “What are You Doing to Protect Your Marriage?” You can read his article here.
How did God design us? Were we designed for fidelity to one spouse for life? This is an important question because we will behave according to our design. Design implies an intention. Did God intend for us to be in marital relationship, faithful to just one spouse?
Marriage is suffering badly in our culture, and children are suffering as a result. One very positive outcome of fidelity in marriage is stability and partnership in raising healthy children. Men and women are suffering greatly too from divorce, economically and emotionally. Many divorced people live years in loneliness and bitterness, and struggle to love and trust again.
God also designed us for sexual pleasure and to procreate. He designed us also with the ability to reason, and to exercise freedom of will. So we have these raw energies built into our DNA, and we also have this advanced intelligence and ability to decide among many alternatives. Faithfulness in marriage is more than just a rule, or a vow. It appears to be part of God’s Kingdom will for his children. They honor Him and one another by the devotion, sacrifice, and yes, deep investment, required for a successful marriage.
Marriage is a primary relationship in which we learn the essential lessons of love. These lessons, for reasons I do not think we can understand in this life, are preparing us to love and serve God on the “New Earth” when He restores his chosen people to full life and obedience.
” . . .thy Kingdom, come, thy will be done, in marriage, as it is in heaven.”
Mark 12: 24-27 — Jesus said, “You’re way off base, and here’s why: One, you don’t know your Bibles; two, you don’t know how God works. After the dead are raised up, we’re past the marriage business. As it is with angels now, all our ecstasies and intimacies then will be with God.