The drive for sexual gratification is not just physical, but connected in humans to a soul-need for intimacy and connection. We deny our the spiritual dimension of sexuality at the risk of our mental health and emotional well-being. We are not just animals, but also angels. We have one foot on earth, and one foot in heaven. 

 Sexuality divorced from deep intimacy is a “prostitution” or cheapening of the gift of our sexuality. Yes, there is gratification, and yes, there is the appearance of intimacy, but the truth is that sexual intercourse outside of marriage is a small fraction of the intimacy God intended for sexual pleasure. Loyalty, commitment, knowledge, forgiveness, acceptance, security, safety, kindness, attention, generosity, and tenderness are “soul-hungers” that are also expressed in the hunger of sexual gratification. Subconsciously, the quest for easy and immediate gratification through fantasy represents a shortcut to satisfy these needs for love, trust, and oneness. 

 “Sacred sexuality” expresses the power and wonder of the male-female relationship within marriage. New born human life issues forth from sexuality. Dwell on this: we are “god creators” in our sexuality. We are truly just a little below the status of angels.

 I fear we are losing our “soul” as a culture. We are “hard-hearted” to the interconnections of our choices. The social fabric is ripped apart by abortion, fornication and adultery. [Yes, I used that quaint old term “fornication.”] That we are willing to abort human life is directly related to our readiness to abort human marriage by easy divorce. Pornography is directly related to our devaluation of our marriage partners. When one aspect of relationship is devalued, all other aspects of relationship suffer as well. Stated differently, either everything about human life is sacred, or nothing is. 

 Matthew 15:16-20. 

 16 “Are you still so dull?” Jesus asked them. 17 “Don’t you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? 18 But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. 19 For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. 20 These are what defile a person; but eating with unwashed hands does not defile them.”